Thursday, June 28, 2018
Wednesday, June 27, 2018
Tuesday, June 26, 2018
ARE YOU LOOKING FOR THE BEST IN PEOPLE?
Are you looking for the best in people?
I'm not just talking about 'seeing' the best in them.
I mean really 'looking'.
It's the difference between being a passive observer and an active agent.
As a leader, part of your job is to nurture people and help them grow...
Which is not a passive event.
'Looking' for the best in people entails doing some digging.
It means getting to know them.
Recognizing their strenghts.
Understanding their values.
Realizing their virtues.
And then picturing them living in alignment with those strengths, values, and virtues.
Once you do that, you're likely to see more in somebody than they themselves do.
Psychologists have this concept called 'the looking glass self.'
It says that we come to view ourselves the way we think others view us.
What does this mean?
It means that simply by picturing somebody being their best...
we're helping them to become their best.
So stop just 'seeing' the best in people.
And start looking for it.
I'm not just talking about 'seeing' the best in them.
I mean really 'looking'.
It's the difference between being a passive observer and an active agent.
As a leader, part of your job is to nurture people and help them grow...
Which is not a passive event.
'Looking' for the best in people entails doing some digging.
It means getting to know them.
Recognizing their strenghts.
Understanding their values.
Realizing their virtues.
And then picturing them living in alignment with those strengths, values, and virtues.
Once you do that, you're likely to see more in somebody than they themselves do.
Psychologists have this concept called 'the looking glass self.'
It says that we come to view ourselves the way we think others view us.
What does this mean?
It means that simply by picturing somebody being their best...
we're helping them to become their best.
So stop just 'seeing' the best in people.
And start looking for it.
Most People Want Something More Out of Life
Most people want something more out of life...
But most people don't know how to actually get something more out of life.
The separation between 'wanting' and 'getting' comes down to three things most people don't get right:
👉 They don't understand or haven't articulated their values.
Without an understanding of their values, a person is unable to determine what direction they should be moving, what activities are worth pursuing, or what life they want to be living.
Put simply, they are unable to establish priorities.
👉 They are unable to organize around those priorities.
Life is filled with demands on our time and money.
The problem is, most of those demands have very little or nothing to do with bringing a person in closer alignment to the things they value.
Experienced entrepreneurs usually understand how this works.
You've got to trim the fat.
You've got to turn Thirsty Thursday into Thoughtful Thursday and your booze budget into your book budget.
👉 They lack the discipline to execute on their priorities.
This is where the rubber meets the road.
It takes discipline to stay in and write another blog post while your friends are out drinking.
Or to attend a webinar when your favorite show is on.
Discipline is about consistency.
It's in the culmination of small activities that that results in success.
But small activities, which are easy to do, are also easy not to do.
So if you want more but you're struggling to get more...
Ask yourself: which of these three am I missing?
Your path forward starts there.
But most people don't know how to actually get something more out of life.
The separation between 'wanting' and 'getting' comes down to three things most people don't get right:
👉 They don't understand or haven't articulated their values.
Without an understanding of their values, a person is unable to determine what direction they should be moving, what activities are worth pursuing, or what life they want to be living.
Put simply, they are unable to establish priorities.
👉 They are unable to organize around those priorities.
Life is filled with demands on our time and money.
The problem is, most of those demands have very little or nothing to do with bringing a person in closer alignment to the things they value.
Experienced entrepreneurs usually understand how this works.
You've got to trim the fat.
You've got to turn Thirsty Thursday into Thoughtful Thursday and your booze budget into your book budget.
👉 They lack the discipline to execute on their priorities.
This is where the rubber meets the road.
It takes discipline to stay in and write another blog post while your friends are out drinking.
Or to attend a webinar when your favorite show is on.
Discipline is about consistency.
It's in the culmination of small activities that that results in success.
But small activities, which are easy to do, are also easy not to do.
So if you want more but you're struggling to get more...
Ask yourself: which of these three am I missing?
Your path forward starts there.
UNDERSTAND WHO YOU WANT TO WORK WITH.
Understand who you want to work with.
Your 'Ideal Client'.
In a world where you have access to over 2 Billion people on Facebook alone there's no reason to spend your time on anybody else.
How do you determine your 'ideal client'?
Well, it's more than just jotting down some demographics.
"Women, age 30-35, income $35,000, two kids, married, college educated"
This is an alright start (I guess), but doesn't actually give you anything to work with.
Instead ask:
"What is my ideal customer passionate about?"
"What are their goals and dreams?"
"What do they read, or watch, or do for fun?"
"Are there certain defining moments that my ideal clients have experienced? Were they laid off? Did they start a business? Did they just have a kid?"
If you've got hazy thinking you're likely to get hazy results.
Bring your ideal client into focus and watch your business take off.
Your 'Ideal Client'.
In a world where you have access to over 2 Billion people on Facebook alone there's no reason to spend your time on anybody else.
How do you determine your 'ideal client'?
Well, it's more than just jotting down some demographics.
"Women, age 30-35, income $35,000, two kids, married, college educated"
This is an alright start (I guess), but doesn't actually give you anything to work with.
Instead ask:
"What is my ideal customer passionate about?"
"What are their goals and dreams?"
"What do they read, or watch, or do for fun?"
"Are there certain defining moments that my ideal clients have experienced? Were they laid off? Did they start a business? Did they just have a kid?"
If you've got hazy thinking you're likely to get hazy results.
Bring your ideal client into focus and watch your business take off.
Monday, June 25, 2018
Wisdom For Enterprise
If you want to train a puppy, you have to get the timing right.
Their brains can only connect their behavior and its consequence over a very short period of time.
And if you want your training to be REALLY effective, you have to catch them in the act.
That's why clicker training is so effective.
You associate a reward to the click.
After you do that for a while, the click itself triggers a reward in the brain.
And then you use the click itself to mark the exact moment the puppy took the desired action.
Although people are much more complicated...
And have a more sophisticated ability to bridge the gap between action and consequence...
Our brains still work in fundamentally the same way.
Why do you think that so many people knowingly trade long-term costs for short-term benefits?
Think junk food, video games, tv, drugs, and alcohol.
They all trigger short-term rewards.
The brain heavily biases towards those things which reward or punish us immediately.
So if you are responsible for training people...
(And you're always responsible for training yourself)
Or if you want to start encouraging certain behaviors over others...
Start catching them in the act.
Their brains can only connect their behavior and its consequence over a very short period of time.
And if you want your training to be REALLY effective, you have to catch them in the act.
That's why clicker training is so effective.
You associate a reward to the click.
After you do that for a while, the click itself triggers a reward in the brain.
And then you use the click itself to mark the exact moment the puppy took the desired action.
Although people are much more complicated...
And have a more sophisticated ability to bridge the gap between action and consequence...
Our brains still work in fundamentally the same way.
Why do you think that so many people knowingly trade long-term costs for short-term benefits?
Think junk food, video games, tv, drugs, and alcohol.
They all trigger short-term rewards.
The brain heavily biases towards those things which reward or punish us immediately.
So if you are responsible for training people...
(And you're always responsible for training yourself)
Or if you want to start encouraging certain behaviors over others...
Start catching them in the act.
Saturday, June 16, 2018
BROKEN (EPISODE 18)
Broken. Episode 18!
"Amaka, speak up! Who has been banging you and got you an iPhone?" I had to think fast, "am not having sex with any man, I used cucumber on myself a couple of times, maybe that's why my vagina feels loose, as for the phone, it was uncle that bought me the phone and collected my Samsung" I said, with tears already forming in my eyes.
"Chai! Wonders shall never end, so your vagina has started to itch you so bad that you opted for a cucumber instead of coming to me first, how can you be this stupid? I told you that your body belongs to me, I take good care of you and give you all you want, the only thing I ask for is your body and for you to not allow anyone touch you without my consent, especially a man. Oh my God, this is just plain stupid" she said, walking back and forth in the room.
"Babe, calm down" her friend said, while motioning my Aunty to sit down. "Atleast, let's thank God she's not shagging some useless, good for nothing out there, the poor girl was probably horny and decided to do herself, maybe she was shy to approach you about it since you are always the one that makes the first move on her, I don't see anything bad in this. Take it easy, abeg" she finished.
"Okay, no worries, I have heard you. But she still has to tell me where she got this phone. Madam, who bought you an iphone? And you better not lie to me" she asked.
Her friend spoke up again, she was obviously feeling sorry for me, she knew I was in a very tight corner and she was trying to make light the situation and make my Aunty calm down. I could see the concern on her face as she tried to pacify my Aunty, but my Aunty wouldn't have any of it, she ignore her and asked me again, this time, with serious anger, she practically screamed at me.
As I made to answer her, the phone began to ring, Kai. My heart started beating so fast. I remembered that I hadn't spoken to my uncle since I got back from school and he's probably calling to check up on me. The next thing I knew, my Aunty picked the call and put it on speaker, then she gave me a sign to answer the call, with a shaky voice, I said, "hello"...
To be continued.
"Amaka, speak up! Who has been banging you and got you an iPhone?" I had to think fast, "am not having sex with any man, I used cucumber on myself a couple of times, maybe that's why my vagina feels loose, as for the phone, it was uncle that bought me the phone and collected my Samsung" I said, with tears already forming in my eyes.
"Chai! Wonders shall never end, so your vagina has started to itch you so bad that you opted for a cucumber instead of coming to me first, how can you be this stupid? I told you that your body belongs to me, I take good care of you and give you all you want, the only thing I ask for is your body and for you to not allow anyone touch you without my consent, especially a man. Oh my God, this is just plain stupid" she said, walking back and forth in the room.
"Babe, calm down" her friend said, while motioning my Aunty to sit down. "Atleast, let's thank God she's not shagging some useless, good for nothing out there, the poor girl was probably horny and decided to do herself, maybe she was shy to approach you about it since you are always the one that makes the first move on her, I don't see anything bad in this. Take it easy, abeg" she finished.
"Okay, no worries, I have heard you. But she still has to tell me where she got this phone. Madam, who bought you an iphone? And you better not lie to me" she asked.
Her friend spoke up again, she was obviously feeling sorry for me, she knew I was in a very tight corner and she was trying to make light the situation and make my Aunty calm down. I could see the concern on her face as she tried to pacify my Aunty, but my Aunty wouldn't have any of it, she ignore her and asked me again, this time, with serious anger, she practically screamed at me.
As I made to answer her, the phone began to ring, Kai. My heart started beating so fast. I remembered that I hadn't spoken to my uncle since I got back from school and he's probably calling to check up on me. The next thing I knew, my Aunty picked the call and put it on speaker, then she gave me a sign to answer the call, with a shaky voice, I said, "hello"...
To be continued.
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