Tuesday, June 26, 2018

UNDERSTAND WHO YOU WANT TO WORK WITH.

Understand who you want to work with.

Your 'Ideal Client'.

In a world where you have access to over 2 Billion people on Facebook alone there's no reason to spend your time on anybody else.

How do you determine your 'ideal client'?

Well, it's more than just jotting down some demographics.

"Women, age 30-35, income $35,000, two kids, married, college educated"

This is an alright start (I guess), but doesn't actually give you anything to work with.

Instead ask:
"What is my ideal customer passionate about?"
"What are their goals and dreams?"
"What do they read, or watch, or do for fun?"
"Are there certain defining moments that my ideal clients have experienced?  Were they laid off?  Did they start a business?  Did they just have a kid?"

If you've got hazy thinking you're likely to get hazy results.

Bring your ideal client into focus and watch your business take off.

Monday, June 25, 2018

Wisdom For Enterprise

If you want to train a puppy, you have to get the timing right.

Their brains can only connect their behavior and its consequence over a very short period of time.

And if you want your training to be REALLY effective, you have to catch them in the act.

That's why clicker training is so effective. 

You associate a reward to the click.

After you do that for a while, the click itself triggers a reward  in the brain.

And then you use the click itself to mark the exact moment the puppy took the desired action.

Although people are much more complicated...
And have a more sophisticated ability to bridge the gap between action and consequence...
Our brains still work in fundamentally the same way.

Why do you think that so many people knowingly trade long-term costs for short-term benefits?

Think junk food, video games, tv, drugs, and alcohol.

They all trigger short-term rewards.

The brain heavily biases towards those things which reward or punish us immediately.

So if you are responsible for training people...
(And you're always responsible for training yourself)

Or if you want to start encouraging certain behaviors over others...

Start catching them in the act.

Saturday, June 16, 2018

BROKEN (EPISODE 18)

Broken. Episode 18!

"Amaka, speak up! Who has been banging you and got you an iPhone?" I had to think fast, "am not having sex with any man, I used cucumber on myself a couple of times, maybe that's why my vagina feels loose, as for the phone, it was uncle that bought me the phone and collected my Samsung" I said, with tears already forming in my eyes.

"Chai! Wonders shall never end, so your vagina has started to itch you so bad that you opted for a cucumber instead of coming to me first, how can you be this stupid? I told you that your body belongs to me, I take good care of you and give you all you want, the only thing I ask for is your body and for you to not allow anyone touch you without my consent, especially a man. Oh my God, this is just plain stupid" she said, walking back and forth in the room.

"Babe, calm down" her friend said, while motioning my Aunty to sit down. "Atleast, let's thank God she's not shagging some useless, good for nothing out there, the poor girl was probably horny and decided to do herself, maybe she was shy to approach you about it since you are always the one that makes the first move on her, I don't see anything bad in this. Take it easy, abeg" she finished.

"Okay, no worries, I have heard you. But she still has to tell me where she got this phone. Madam, who bought you an iphone? And you better not lie to me" she asked.

Her friend spoke up again, she was obviously feeling sorry for me, she knew I was in a very tight corner and she was trying to make light the situation and make my Aunty calm down. I could see the concern on her face as she tried to pacify my Aunty, but my Aunty wouldn't have any of it, she ignore her and asked me again, this time, with serious anger, she practically screamed at me.

As I made to answer her, the phone began to ring, Kai. My heart started beating so fast. I remembered that I hadn't spoken to my uncle since I got back from school and he's probably calling to check up on me. The next thing I knew, my Aunty picked the call and put it on speaker, then she gave me a sign to answer the call, with a shaky voice, I said, "hello"...

To be continued.

BROKEN (EPISODE 17)

Broken. Episode 17!

I was still admiring her when my Aunty said, "Amaka, your vagina feels a bit loose, unlike before. Don't tell me a guy has been banging you, wait, have you started having sex with a guy?" "Aunty, I...I...don't understa...." Luckily for me, her friend interrupted, "Bia, babe, don't make the poor girl uncomfortable, biko, if you want to interview her about her vagina then do it later not now, am so horny, I have not had a young, fresh tongue down here (pointing at her vagina) since my maid left, spare me jare, besides, people go through changes. Amaka is speedily growing and so is every part of her body" she finished, and drew me close to her in a warm embrace.

My Aunty locked eyes with me for a while, she said a lot with her eyes, I could see the shock and disbelief in them. I knew I was in trouble. My mind began to work fast, I needed to think of what to tell her, she must never find out I was having sex her husband. It didn't occur to me that sleeping with a man would make my vagina loose, something that was always so tight when my uncle penetrates me, which drives him crazy, I know all these because of the expression on his face when we bang and how much he praises my vagina for being so tight and sweet, so how come it feels loose to my Aunty, I didn't understand it at all.

I was still lost in thoughts, while her friend took over from her and started sucking me, she made me lay on the bed and feasted on my vagina like she was enjoying a delicious meal. She was so different and I really enjoyed it, the way she moved her tongue round my clitoris and the way she sucked my hole like her life depended on it. I felt a whole new wave of sweet sensation, more than how I felt when my uncle went down on me. It was amazing. I made up my mind to be very close to her, once was not enough, I needed to feel that way again, though, I still had my Aunty to sort out.

She was seated at the edge of the bed watching us with her hands folded, I knew so much was going through her mind. I decided not to think about that but to focus and enjoy the moment with her pretty friend.

We took turns sucking eachother, after she stopped sucking me and undressed. We made love while my Aunty watched keenly, it was like she wasn't even in the room, everything her friend did to my body, I gave back to her same exact way, when we were done, she led me into the bathroom and washed me up. We made love again inside the bathroom and for a while, I forgot about my Aunty and the whole loose vagina issue.

By the time we got out of the bathroom, my Aunty was standing close to the door with my phone, "Amaka, I bought you a samsung, how come you have an iPhone? I went into your room to get your phone and found this. The guy that is fucking you obviously changed your phone, I guess? Speak up, young lady or I mercilessly deal with you the way you will never forget in your life" I was speechless, I kept staring at her, short of words, her friend tried to speak again but this time, my Aunty interrupted her.

“Nne, please, I use God beg you, stay away from this. You were horny yeah? Now, you've had your fill, allow me handle this" she turned back to me, "Amaka, speak up! Who has been banging you and got you an iPhone?"...

To be continued tomorrow...

BROKEN (EPISODE 16)

Broken. Episode 16!

I quickly dressed up and was about to leave, when my Uncle said the most absurd thing, "Nne, you have to come back tomorrow, but this time, I will send you someone that will pick you up close to your school and you will change your uniform in his car. Just make sure you carry extra cloth in your school bag. Your idea is good, but I already paid for 5 days in this hotel and it's non refundable, also, I can't keep sneaking out at midnight without my wife noticing my absence one day, we don't want to get caught, do we?" He gave me a hug, with a smile that I couldn't resist. I thought about what he said and it made sense, so I agreed and asked, "who will you send to get me? Do you trust him enough" He helped me complete the rest of my button and replied, "Amy, don't worry yourself, just trust me and do as I say, make sure your phone is on, because I will need to always communicate with you. Now, give your Uncle a kiss and run along"

I kissed him and left. I got back to school slightly past 4pm and ran all the way to my sister's class, I was about walking into her class when she called me from behind, "Amaka, see me here" I turned and saw her smiling, at that moment, I knew I had to step up my game and start thinking of how to bring my siblings together under one roof. I made up my mind to talk to Uncle about it, I hadn't asked him for anything since he started sleeping with me and I knew I already got him locked down and he would do anything for me.

 When we got home, my aunty and her prayer team were seated in the living room, reading their Bible, we walked up to them and greeted them, they answered with plenty 'God bless you'. As we turned to leave, my Aunty spoke. "Nne m, please, change out of your uniform, go to the kitchen and make noodles for you and your sister, when you are done eating, go straight to my room and clean it, also wash the bathroom, be fast, but make sure you shower" "Okay, Aunty" I replied.

An hour later, I was in her room sweeping, when she walked in with her pretty friend that gave me her number months ago but I hadn't mustered the courage to call her. I quickly swept the room and was rushing to clean and get out, when my Aunty told me to drop what I was holding and undress, that she wants to check something. My heart started beating fast, I thought she had suspected I was sleeping with her husband and wanted to inspect my vagina just to be sure. I was so scared, as I reluctantly undressed and got naked. She walked up to me and caressed my nipples, then bent and put the right one in her mouth and sucked me, the next thing I knew, her friend started sucking my right nipple, both of them were sucking and moaning.

I closed my eyes and took in all they were doing, as usual, I was the sex object, I had long ago accepted my fate. They sucked and sucked like they were in some sort of contest, then my Aunty knelt inbetween my legs, spread it and put her mouth down there, she sucked while her friend focused on both of my breasts, she was sucking and examining them like she hasn't seen another breasts apart from hers before. She looked so cute and for once, I loved the fact that she was touching me, unlike my Aunty and sister Margaret that always made me feel so disgusted.

I was still admiring her when my Aunty said, "Amaka, your vagina feels a bit loose, unlike before. Don't tell me a guy has been banging you, wait, have you started having sex with a guy?"...

To be continued.

BROKEN (EPISODE 15)

Broken. Episode 15!

So he devised a means that he thought might be suitable for us. He told his wife he had an urgent business meeting in Abuja and needed to travel the next day, the wife was very sad that he won't be around for the prayer session but she couldn't do anything to stop him, at the end, she helped him pack a bag and he left the next day. My aunty didn't know that he only went to lodge in a hotel somewhere a bit far from our house, so every morning, my sister and I, will leave for school but I will drop my sister and go meet my uncle at the hotel where he lodged.

At first, I was so uncomfortable going there with my school uniform, the way the receptionist stared at me the first day I got there sent chills down my spine, I knew what she was thinking, I felt so so embarrassed and decided to talk to my Uncle about it. When I got to the room, he was so happy to see me on opening the door, he hugged me so tight and couldn't get enough of me, "Amaka, what have you done to me? I can't seem to get enough of you. I want you every minute. I want to bury myself inside of you, I want to be wrapped around you. You are just my medicine. I have never felt this way in a long while, I really love you so much, and I want to..." "Uncle, I need to talk to you about something. I won't be able to come here tomorrow, I don't like the way people were looking at me downstairs, I felt like a little whore, walking into a hotel with my school uniform and school bag, the lady at the reception stared hard at me with so much scorn in her eyes, I felt so uncomfortable. I think you should just come home and we can always sneak out at midnight to make love inside your car with the lights off, you will park very close to the garden, it's extremely darker there since the compound light doesn't get to that angle, I think that's just the only best option, I can't face these people again tomorrow, am still thinking of how am going to walk out of here later in the day" I said, looking so downcast.

He nudged me to the bed and made me sit on his laps, "Nne, look at me, I am sorry for putting you through this, I guess I didn't think about it thoroughly, you coming here on your school uniform. You see what you do to me? You make me loose it, I have completely gone nuts for you. Oya smile for me and give me a hug" he said. I turned and hugged him, with a smile on my face. That day, we made love like never before, it was so passionate. We went on for rounds and rounds until 3:30pm. I needed to rush back to school before closing time, which was 4pm to get my kid sis. I didn't want her to go looking for me in my class and find out I didn't go to class at all.

I quickly dressed up and was about to leave, when my Uncle said the most absurd thing...

To be continued.

BROKEN (EPISODE 14)

Broken. Episode 14!

He kept sucking and moaning, with his hands stretched out to my breasts and that's when it happened...

I tried to squeeze my vagina closed while he sucked me. After a short time, I realized I was getting this ever stronger wave of pleasure which eventually hit a peak. I remember suddenly sitting up completely freaked out. I felt a kind of tingling in my vagina region and was convinced that I had to go pee. I would stop him mid suck-times and rush off to the bathroom. Finally, he stopped me at some point and said that I probably didn't actually have to go to the bathroom but was actually close to having an orgasm.

An orgasm can be quite a shock to the system, particularly if you didn't know your body was capable of having one. At first, orgasms can be surprising, accidental, or even scary (or a combination of those feelings). In most cases, though, orgasms are fun and leave people wanting more.

After that wave of pleasure, I fell in love with my uncle, it became more than revenge, I wanted him all to myself, if he could make me experience such tremendous pleasure I never knew was possible, then he is mine and was ready to do everything to keep him. The rest of the 'lovemaking' was superb, he was so gentle and showed me a whole new side to sex which was extremely amazing. When he was done, he carried me into the bathroom and we showered together, he cleaned me up thoroughly and I dressed up, without saying a word to eachother, I walked out of their room. That was the beginning of a disastrous relationship between my uncle and I.

We became obsessed with eachother, any opportunity we got, we banged, on the balcony at midnight, in the kitchen when alone in the house, inside the car in the night, this continued for months, meanwhile, I was still sleeping with Sister Margaret and her daughter, also with my aunty. I became a sex object while making money from it. I had already saved up a lot of money and was enjoying my life. I was in love with an amazing man (my uncle) my innocent self believed all the lies he told me thinking he was in love with me like he claimed, not knowing he was just using fake love to have sex with me whenever he wanted.

It got to a point that we became so addicted to eachother, no day will pass without us having sex, we always looked for ways and means to make it possible. My aunty noticed the closeness between my Uncle and I, but she didn't suspect anything, instead she was so happy I was really getting along with her husband. Then she brought some church people to do the house to do a prayer session for one week and it became so hard for my uncle and I, to carry on with our daily sexual routine. So he devised a means that he thought might be suitable for us.

To be continued.