NEMESIS OF A DNAT TEST

HERE IS A SHORT MIND BLOWING STORY🤗

TITTLE: Nemesis Of A DNA Test:
 (Episodes 1)

  "You can't be serious, doctor. What are you saying?" I was in denial of the obvious.
  "I'm sorry Mr Onuoha, but you're not the biological father of your last three children. "
  "This must be an expensive joke."
  "DNA does not lie."
  "Doc, those children calls me Dad."
  "It doesn't make them your biological children. "
  I knew the doctor  wasn't lying. I only came to his hospital to reconfirm what a previous test had confirmed. Among my four children, only the first is my biological child.
  "Doctor Dibia, I've been the father of those children right from the time they were conceived. How could this happen to me?"
  "Kacy my friend, in this profession I've seen such cases many times. Some men will find out and choose to bury the secret because of shame, while some will take drastic measure."
  "I'm finished, doctor."
  "I'll advice you calm down and go home. Your wife has got some explanation to make."
  "Sure, Chioma has got some explanation to make. And it better be a reasonable one."
  What have I just said? A reasonable explanation? Can there be any explanation reasonable enough to justify this act? That I, Kelechi Onuoha, is not the biological father of Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego. Children that I love so much and loved their mother more each day for giving me three boys. I remembered when Abednego was born, I bought a brand new CRV four-wheel-drive for my wife in appreciation.
  Rant HQ has finished me. Suzan Ade Coker has ruined my life. Why did I even join that group? Oh Chioma! Chioma, you have killed me, Chioma. Ewu a ta m igu n'isi.
  I rushed out from the hospital, rushed into my car and drove off like the devil was after me. Anger was boiling in my stomach, pain was beating drum in my heart, and confusion was pounding yam in my head. In an instant I was becoming a miserable wreck.
  I'm coming,  Chioma.

FLASH BACK:
  It was about a week ago that my friend, Mr Gbenga, called me on whatsapp.
  "Omo Igbo," that was his usual hello.
  "Omo Yoruba," was my hi.
  "O boy, I want to add you to one crazy group like that."
  "What group is that?"
  "Where people rants two-four-seven and dey do amebo."
  "Amebo? Abeg add me sharperly."
  "There's something I would like you to read anyway."
  "Ok."
  Few minutes later, notification came on Facebook,  "Gbenga Ajayi added you to a close group, Rant HQ." Before I could click, another notification, "Gbenga Ajayi mentioned you in a post", followed by a message on messenger, "Please, go through the comments on that post."
  Something seriously needed my attention for Gbenga to have gone to this length. I opened the post, made by Suzan Ade Coker, which was asking men if they're sure of the paternity of their children and of the surprises a DNA test could reveal. What has this got to do with me? Why did Gbenga drag me to the post? I began to read the comments.
  Then, gbagam! I saw it. My beautiful wife, Chioma, was a member of the group. Her comment was attracting a lot of attention. It wasn't just a comment. She was practically raining fire and brimestone on the poster, accusing her of trying to break "happy" marriages. She asked for the post to be pulled down or her god will strike the poster.
  As I expected, members were attacking her. One said she was a suspect. The other said maybe her gateman was the father of her children. Another one  said she probably don't know who the real father or fathers of her children are. I couldn't believe what my wife was ranting. Why being so defensive if she was innocent?  Why spitting so much venom?
  Yes, her comment made her a suspect. Okwu ya achiputala ya ukwu n'ama. And I must get to the bottom of this.

BACK TO PRESENT:
  Wahala dey. Big wahala dey.
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Episode 2??

BEING A LEADER IS ALL ABOUT CREATING CONNECTIONS

Being a leader is all about creating connections.

And while most people fixate on the ‘outside’ connections, if you want to be a leader the first connection you need to make is to yourself.

If you don’t understand who you are and what you stand for…

And you don’t live according to your stated principles…

Your odds of building a loyal, trusting following are nonexistent.

As Aristotle said: “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

So, here are 3 ways to develop the self-knowledge required of a good leader:

1 – Define Your Core Values

If you’re a leader, whether in a large or small capacity, you’re going to be faced with some hard decisions.  

Roy Disney had a phrase “When values are clear decisions are easy.”

Understanding your core values provides a roadmap for decision-making.  

Not only does this help clarify things for you…

But it helps your teammates understand and predict what you’re going to do and why you’re going to do it – an unpredictable leader creates an environment of uncertainty and anxiety.

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2 – Understand Your Temperament

Are you introverted or extroverted?  Do you prefer to be spontaneous or well-planned?  Are you intuitive or data-driven?

Understanding your temperament is important in understanding where you’re likely to be naturally energized, knowing how to communicate with people of different temperaments, and finding teammates who can make up for your weaknesses.

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3 – Articulate Your Vision

Understand where you’re going, why you’re going there, how you’re going to get there.

What does success look like?  What are your win conditions?  What contribution do you want to make?

When articulate your vision, you need to ensure that it’s in alignment with both your values and your temperament.

Too often I see people who say they ‘want to make a difference’, but their vision is about laying on a beach in the Bahamas.

Or they’re an introvert trying to master the door-to-door game (a mistake I once made!).

In your role as a leader, it’s your primary job to get people rallied around your vision.  

If you can’t articulate it to yourself, you can’t communicate it to your team.

And if it’s not true to who you are, they’ll smell the incongruence from a mile away.

Every Parent Must Watch This.

LIZZY ANJORIN

ARE YOU LOOKING FOR THE BEST IN PEOPLE?

Are you looking for the best in people?

I'm not just talking about 'seeing' the best in them.

I mean really 'looking'.

It's the difference between being a passive observer and an active agent.

As a leader, part of your job is to nurture people and help them grow...
Which is not a passive event.

'Looking' for the best in people entails doing some digging.

It means getting to know them.
Recognizing their strenghts.
Understanding their values.
Realizing their virtues.
And then picturing them living in alignment with those strengths, values, and virtues.

Once you do that, you're likely to see more in somebody than they themselves do.

Psychologists have this concept called 'the looking glass self.'

It says that we come to view ourselves the way we think others view us.

What does this mean?

It means that simply by picturing somebody being their best...
we're helping them to become their best.

So stop just 'seeing' the best in people.
And start looking for it.

Most People Want Something More Out of Life

Most people want something more out of life...
But most people don't know how to actually get something more out of life.

The separation between 'wanting' and 'getting' comes down to three things most people don't get right:

👉 They don't understand or haven't articulated their values. 

Without an understanding of their values, a person is unable to determine what direction they should be moving, what activities are worth pursuing, or what life they want to be living.

Put simply, they are unable to establish priorities.

👉 They are unable to organize around those priorities.

Life is filled with demands on our time and money. 
The problem is, most of those demands have very little or nothing to do with bringing a person in closer alignment to the things they value. 

Experienced entrepreneurs usually understand how this works.

You've got to trim the fat. 

You've got to turn Thirsty Thursday into Thoughtful Thursday and your booze budget into your book budget.

👉 They lack the discipline to execute on their priorities.

This is where the rubber meets the road. 

It takes discipline to stay in and write another blog post while your friends are out drinking.
Or to attend a webinar when your favorite show is on.

Discipline is about consistency.

It's in the culmination of small activities that that results in success.
But small activities, which are easy to do, are also easy not to do.

So if you want more but you're struggling to get more...

Ask yourself: which of these three am I missing?

Your path forward starts there.